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"[Thich Nhat Hanh] shows us the connection between personal, inner peace and peace on earth." His Holiness The Dalai Lama

Nominated by Martin Luther King, Jr. for a Nobel Peace Prize, Thich Nhat Hanh is one of today’s leading sources of wisdom, peace, compassion and comfort.

It was under the bodhi tree in India twenty-five centuries ago that Buddha achieved the insight that three states of mind were the source of all our unhappiness: wrong knowing, obsessive desire, and anger. All are difficult, but in one instant of anger—one of the most powerful emotions—lives can be ruined, and health and spiritual development can be destroyed.

With exquisite simplicity, Buddhist monk and Vietnam refugee Thich Nhat Hanh gives tools and advice for transforming relationships, focusing energy, and rejuvenating those parts of ourselves that have been laid waste by anger. His extraordinary wisdom can transform your life and the lives of the people you love, and in the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, can give each reader the power "to change everything."

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"Thich Nhat Hanh is a holy man, for he is humble and devout. He is a scholar of immense intellectual capacity. His ideas for peace if applied, would build a monument of ecumenism, to world brotherhood, to humanity." —Martin Luther King, Jr.

"He shows us the connection between personal, inner peace, and peace on earth." —His Holiness The Dalai Lama

"Hanh doesn''t limit his task to discussing anger between families and friends; he also deals with anger between citizens and governments. That expansive vision is not surprising (Hanh, after all, is a Nobel Peace Prize nominee) but it is refreshing, lifting this book out of the self-absorbed, self-help pile."  —Publishers Weekly

"Reminding us that small spiritual matters are really large spiritual matters, the author offers wisdom and serenity to comfort readers as they work through anger to a place of ''being peace.''" —Library Journal

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Thich Nhat Hanh is  a Vietnamese monk,  a rare combination of mystic, scholar, and activist and one of the most beloved Buddhist teachers in the West. Poet, Zen master, and chairman of the Vietnamese Buddhist Peace Delegation during the Vietnam War, he was nominated by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., for the Nobel Peace Prize.

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Abeer Y. Hoque
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simple, profound, transformative (if you can let it in)
Reviewed in the United States on December 27, 2019
Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hanh It’s hard to summarize the lessons I learned from the book of Anger by Buddhist monk Thich Naht Hanh, because there were so many. Much of it was like finding the words for things I already knew,... See more
Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hanh

It’s hard to summarize the lessons I learned from the book of Anger by Buddhist monk Thich Naht Hanh, because there were so many. Much of it was like finding the words for things I already knew, subconsciously or not. Like the profound relief we gain when we feel heard. Or how we want to punish others when we suffer. (Why does this even make sense and yet is so horribly true?)

One of the oft-repeated mantras in the book is about compassionate listening and loving-kindness speech. It seems obvious that listening with compassion is a good thing. But the fact that it can help the other person suffer less is not as apparent. If we can allow the other person to express herself and find relief from her suffering, then we have accomplished the one and only goal of compassionate listening.

Of course, keeping compassion alive the entire time we listen is not easy, especially when we are implicated in the other’s suffering. The desire to defend oneself, or to criticize the mode of expression is both deep and diabolical. Both those can instantly undermine any positive effects of compassionate listening.

TNH suggests a practical if formal template for how to approach anger, both in ourselves and in others. The first step is admitting our anger. We can’t pretend that we don’t suffer: “In true love, there is no pride.” Second, we can’t claim we are doing our best unless we practice. And last, we have to let the other person in.

“Darling, I suffer. I am angry. I want you to know it.”
“Darling, I am doing my best. I am taking good care of my anger. For me and for you also. I don’t want to explode, to destroy myself and destroy you.”
“Darling, I need your help. I cannot do this without you.”

Of course, the success of this exchange depends on mindfulness, on mindful breathing, walking, sitting, speaking, listening. On digging deep to find the roots of our anger. On never saying or doing anything out of anger, but waiting until we are ready to listen compassionately and speak with loving-kindness. As TNH so wisely puts it, “If your house is on fire, the most urgent thing to do is to go back and try to put out the fire, not to run after the person you believe to be the arsonist.”

I appreciated the reminder to wait until we were cooler headed, but even more so, I loved the entreaty to come back after 24 hours, or even by next Friday. In the meantime, we are to write a peace note to the other person. As someone who greatly suffers from the so-called silent treatment (and the subsequent ignoring of said conflict), I was relieved to know that there was another way to approach things. A dear friend calls it throwing the other person a lifeline. You tell them you’re upset and you need time to come back to it with love and good energy, but that you will. The Buddha himself says that a monk has the right to be angry, but not for more than one night. We can’t all be monks, so I’m willing to give it more than 24 hours, but I desperately need the coming back together in order to move on.

This next seems a lesson I will keep learning my entire life: “We should not be sure of any perception we have.” According to TNH, anger mostly comes from incorrect perceptions. He says to write on a piece of paper, “Are you sure?” and hang it up in your room. And even if you are sure, check again.

Anger is defined in the book as an energy, with seeds that may have been watered too frequently over the years. The counter-balance is to water the positive seeds in you—the seeds of love, compassion, and understanding. I’ve been practicing this a little by writing in a gratitude journal every night before I go to sleep. Any practice of positivity keeps us in touch with elements that don’t constantly express suffering: the trees, flowers, children, art—whatever is refreshing, healing, and nourishing. As TNH says, “Let your friends rescue you.”

Along those lines, the book emphasizes that happiness and well-being are not individual matters. We are not separate from each other, from our parents, our ancestors, our friends. And not only that, our self is made of “non-self” elements, like the sun, the air, the earth, the food we eat. I love this psychedelic sense of connection, of selfhood as a universal - even cosmic – concept.

One way to save yourself from being overwhelmed by anger is by writing a Heart Sutra. When you feel very grateful for the other person in your life, TNH says to withdraw and be alone and immersed in those feelings. Write them down as an act of gratitude, enlightenment, mindfulness, intelligence. This is your Heart Sutra, meant to be read in times of need.

I also loved the idea of gift giving as a way to transform your feelings of hurt and anger at someone into wanting to make them happy. TNH advises not waiting until you’re angry to buy a present. He says to buy it when you feel the love. Have the luxury of two or three presents stashed secretly in your drawer, ready to be gifted. I haven’t done the advance buying yet, but I know that the general idea works. Doing something nice for someone, even (especially?) someone I’m mad at, invariably makes me feel better.

Over and over, TNH reminds us that the energy of mindfulness is the key to transforming the energy of anger. Suppressing, fighting, or ignoring anger will do no good. It must be recognized and embraced, often with great tenderness, in order to be transformed: “Hello, my little anger, I know you are there. My old friend.”

Far from reducing anger, punching a pillow (and acts like it) only rehearses it, trains you in aggression, strengthens and grows the seed of anger inside you. The danger of venting feels intuitively correct to me. I don’t want to project any semblance of violence, even on something as “forgiving” as a pillow. Our enemy isn’t the other person. Our enemy is the violence, ignorance, and injustice in us and in the other person. So we practice mindfulness to look deeply for the roots of our anger, to gain insight, which has the power to liberate us and allow transformation.

In the end, our emotions are just that. Emotions. And this might be the hardest lesson of all. We are more than our anger, more than our suffering, more than our emotions. All storms pass, and we have to remember that, and have hope. And in order to take care of our emotions, we have to go back to the body. We lie down, and we breathe: “Breathing in, I calm my whole body, breathing out, I calm my whole body.”

It doesn’t matter how intelligent we are, how much knowledge we’ve gained, how young or old or alone or stuck. Changing our habit energy (and we all have it) requires practice. We don’t have to wait for anyone else in order to start practicing. Transforming ourselves makes reconciliation possible, no matter how resistant the other person is. And either way, we are making space for compassion, for connection, for calm, for love, for kindness, one mindful step at a time.
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Suz
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Embrace & care for anger - not wishing it be gone.
Reviewed in the United States on November 27, 2017
I embrace the concepts in this book. I am learning to take care of my anger and not wish it be gone. My anger tells me I''m suffering. Treat it like I would a friend. Self compassion a big theme. New concept to me and I''m doing my best to practice it. Beautiful book.
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Jeff H.
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Eye opening read, worked well for me in a ...
Reviewed in the United States on May 5, 2017
Eye opening read, worked well for me in a very short time. All you need is motivation, desire to change, and the will to submit to a viewpoint that will bring peace into your life. Your whole life and everyone in it. Wish I read this when I first got out of the military.... See more
Eye opening read, worked well for me in a very short time. All you need is motivation, desire to change, and the will to submit to a viewpoint that will bring peace into your life. Your whole life and everyone in it. Wish I read this when I first got out of the military. Your skill set will remain, but it will not be the primary focus in your mind. This is a change for life, that is loaded with all the tools you need.
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John Kooz
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This Book Has Transformed my Life for the Best!
Reviewed in the United States on January 21, 2018
OMG This book has changed my life. I am still reading it, but it is superb. Thich Nhat Hanh''s wisdom is amazing. He is my spiritual Guru and I love his writing. It aligns and centers me and helps me dissolve past disruptive chapters in my life all the while moving... See more
OMG This book has changed my life. I am still reading it, but it is superb. Thich Nhat Hanh''s wisdom is amazing. He is my spiritual Guru and I love his writing. It aligns and centers me and helps me dissolve past disruptive chapters in my life all the while moving forward to a happy future and present. This book ROCKS. I am a buddhist-taoist whom loves learning about spirituality.
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Gloria
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The book aims only at anger in a relationship, ...
Reviewed in the United States on March 26, 2015
The book aims only at anger in a relationship , between two,not for those who have anger and are not in a relationship
I have anger against me and I am not in a relationship
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Ralph Willis
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A BREATH OF NEW LIFE
Reviewed in the United States on October 14, 2016
I have never enjoyed the simple act of breathing so much. What a gift to be remind to do so throughout the book. I recommend it to anyone with anger or anxiety issues. Or anyone dealing with a friend or family member with similar issues
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LordVader
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Book sucks
Reviewed in the United States on October 22, 2018
I am only thankful it’s an easy read so that I can breeze through the torturing pages of jargon. The entire book is a giant contradiction. He goes through 20 pages saying feel remorse for the antagonist that is causing your anger and that you should walk away practice... See more
I am only thankful it’s an easy read so that I can breeze through the torturing pages of jargon. The entire book is a giant contradiction. He goes through 20 pages saying feel remorse for the antagonist that is causing your anger and that you should walk away practice breath excersises and recognize yourself as the problem. Ok sure. Then after all that he’s saying you should let the bully know he’s upset you. Author himself was obviously an enlightened man but you will go through this book and feel that these are the most clique metaphors and passages with a vibe that he’s just trying to fill up pages on an essay and make a quick buck.
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Pat K
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Get this book!!!
Reviewed in the United States on August 26, 2018
This book is amazing. It’s my first introduction to this amazon monk. And my most in-depth experience with the practices of Buddhism. So useable and helping me with finding my way back from years in dry-drunk rage to daily peace and serenity. Not to mention all the help... See more
This book is amazing. It’s my first introduction to this amazon monk. And my most in-depth experience with the practices of Buddhism. So useable and helping me with finding my way back from years in dry-drunk rage to daily peace and serenity. Not to mention all the help with dealing with people and the world. I recommend big time!!!
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Mainly for couples.
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 7, 2020
I thought this book would be about anger in general, but it''s about anger in relationships between couples. It keeps referring to your beloved or your son or daughter. I am single with no children, so I can''t relate to any of the advice. If you are single, I wouldn''t...See more
I thought this book would be about anger in general, but it''s about anger in relationships between couples. It keeps referring to your beloved or your son or daughter. I am single with no children, so I can''t relate to any of the advice. If you are single, I wouldn''t recommend wasting your money on this book.
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Rose
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Great!!
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on June 13, 2017
I bought the book two years ago and just had the chance to read it. I wish I had read it before. I am really impressed with the simplicity and effectiveness of its messages. I absolutely loved it. It calmed me whenever I got the book into my hands. I will not hesitate to...See more
I bought the book two years ago and just had the chance to read it. I wish I had read it before. I am really impressed with the simplicity and effectiveness of its messages. I absolutely loved it. It calmed me whenever I got the book into my hands. I will not hesitate to buy the rest of his books. Thanks very much Thich Nhat Hanh! Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Much appreciated!!
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Caramelx
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A must have mindfulness book for professionals and clients..everyone...
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 31, 2015
This book compliments my Thich Nhat Hanh collection. I studied mindfulness on my Uni course and this book was also used to support a recent presentation. It truly raises my awareness of ''self'' and how to manage my emotions. This has been priceless in my journey of self...See more
This book compliments my Thich Nhat Hanh collection. I studied mindfulness on my Uni course and this book was also used to support a recent presentation. It truly raises my awareness of ''self'' and how to manage my emotions. This has been priceless in my journey of self awareness.. this book is for everyone as it explains how anger can dominate us and the author with his wisdom takes us on a journey through anger...and mindfulness which enables us to work with anger effectively where it doesn''t dominate us. A must read - i use for myself and will use for patients/clients.
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anahenr
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Simple but efficient
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 26, 2015
In a really simple and clear way show us how different ways of anger affect our lives and how to cool down its hurtful flames. It really helped me and my partner. The repetition is necessary for many people to facilitate a deeper understanding. Second, third and more...See more
In a really simple and clear way show us how different ways of anger affect our lives and how to cool down its hurtful flames. It really helped me and my partner. The repetition is necessary for many people to facilitate a deeper understanding. Second, third and more re-readings of few passages can be very beneficial.
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Arrived exactly as described
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